As we headed into our third stop of the day, I yawned and looked at my watch. It was only 9am.
“Good morning,” the nurse said to my daughter as she transitioned out of her wheelchair and onto the exam table. “Now that you’re 12, we’d like you to fill out your own paperwork.”
It was an unexpected request; one my girl wasn’t quite sure about, at least at first. Her confused face looked at the nurse, then looked at me, and then looked back at the nurse. After a few seconds, she reluctantly reached for the stack of papers bound together with a pen, and then, without saying another word, got to work.
As the nurse left the room, I resisted the urge to help and, instead, sat back and decided to watch this moment unfold. I had no idea what my daughter was being asked on those pieces of paper—nor what she was answering—but I knew this was something she needed to do by herself, and not just because someone told her to do it.
Just 1 hour earlier, I watched yet another medical professional manually manipulate her body, testing her muscle strength and what she could and could not do. I watched my daughter try so hard to be strong, even when her body wouldn’t cooperate.
I heard the slight frustration in the therapist’s voice as she attempted to assess and measure my daughter’s abilities:
“No, kick back, not forward. No, no. Not that way. Try again.”
My girl tried again and again, each movement graded and earning a number that meant something to someone, even if it meant nothing to us.
From there, we moved on to x-ray, where a technician positioned her body several times, finally deciding that it would be best if my daughter removed her top undergarment.
“That felt weird, Mom,” she admitted to me afterwards. “I didn’t like it.”
I knelt down, gave her a quick hug, and told her how much I loved her.
All of that led to this third appointment, where a pile of papers and a pen held more power than that nurse probably realized.
With every checkmark my daughter made, I saw a confidence rising up, an ownership that felt so very right and deserved. I saw both dignity and determination in my girl’s face, and I wanted to both crumble into tears and raise my hands in praise.
To the average person, this looked like no big deal, but to this mother, it felt like a promise being answered, a sacred glimpse into the plans of a kind and faithful Father.
She’s got this. He’s got this. They’ve got this.
And me? Well, I just get to witness it.
What an absolute privilege.
As I watched my brave girl fill out those forms, I felt something shift within me—a deep knowing and a whisper in my heart that felt like the very breath of God settling my soul.
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Truth be told, I dread these annual appointments. Having eight specialists in one place is convenient, but it makes for a very long day, filled with lots of information and often surprising news.
A simple symptom turns into another surgery. A tight muscle reveals a vastly different future. A hard decision feels like a tradeoff more than a solution.
And for whatever reason, it all seems to happen around Christmastime. Sometimes, that’s been a choice for insurance reasons; other times, it’s been a medical priority. Most years, we’ve had to be intentional about making this season light, even though so much of it felt very, very heavy.
But today, my usual weariness was met with hope. Not only for me, but for my child, and I wondered if this is what Mary felt as she treasured and pondered. Grasping the innocence of her sweet baby, I imagine she so desperately wanted to protect him from an overwhelming and uncertain future, all the while knowing that her job was to simply love and trust.
I suppose that’s the holy assignment of any mother—to love and trust. At first, it’s a hands-on job, but then slowly, over the years, God gently releases our grasp as He reveals His presence and provision, gaining our trust as we slowly let go.
He’s got this.
Maybe this is what Christmas should look like after all—God revealing hope and peace in the most unexpected places and moments.
In a dirty manger. In a shining star. In a doctor’s office. In a young soul feeling her worth.
He is Immanuel—God with me; God with my daughter; God with us all.
His presence truly is the best present, and today, my weary mama heart is rejoicing.
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