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In the Wind

October 1, 2016 by Lisa

Sometimes, when life feels chaotic and out of control (which, let’s be honest, is more often than not), I stop in my tracks and go outside. My oldest daughter Emma caught me the other day and asked me what I was doing.

“Feeling the wind,” I answered, watching the trees dance.

“Yeah, it feels good, doesn’t it?” she said.

“It does,” I replied.

In that moment, I know she was referring to the relief of the breeze. It was a steamy day, the sun blazing hot, so the wind provided a much-needed respite from the heat.

I, too, was referring to relief, but not quite in the same way.

I think everyone has something in nature that connects them to God—the stillness and vastness of water, the warmth of sunshine, the beauty and joy of flowers, the life-giving properties of hands working in dirt.

For me, it’s the wind.

Several years ago, when I first became a Christian, I taught a 4- and 5-year-old Sunday School class. In one of our lessons, we attempted to teach the concept of Faith. The analogy we used was the wind—you can’t see it, but you can feel it. Just like God. The lesson has never left me, and time and time again, I have used that analogy to remind me of God’s presence.

Sometimes, when the storm is raging and life sends damage and cracks that feel powerful and unmanageable, God’s presence is fierce and sometimes audible, and I can rest in the knowledge that He is moving and working all things for my good and His glory.

Other times, when life feels dry and monotonous, I may not feel Him at all, but I have learned to take the time to be still and lean in closer. It is only then that I see the slight sway of a leaf, the delicate bend of a branch, the gentle reminder that He is near.

And in the harvest, when the sun is shining bright and the cool wind gives way to new and exciting change, I can soak in the goodness and remember the One behind it all—the One to whom the praise is due.

This reminder of the wind, I admit it’s one I need often. But I try not to beat myself up too much for needing a physical representation of God’s faithfulness. In those moments when my heart and head are not in sync, when I can’t tell which way I’m headed or where I might end up, the wind reminds me that He is control.

It’s the same analogy God uses to describe the Holy Spirit on the day of Pentecost:

“And suddenly there came from heaven a noise like a violent rushing wind, and it filled the whole house where they were sitting.”
Acts 2:2 ESV

Jesus also used the concept of wind to explain the work of the Holy Spirit:

“The wind blows where it wishes, and you hear its sound, but you do not know where it comes from or where it goes. So it is with everyone who is born of the Spirit.”
John 3:8 ESV

While I know that God isn’t the wind,  I do believe He created it and tells it when to blow. One of my favorite songs says it best:

 

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~Bethel Music

 

So when the tears are falling and my burdens are much too heavy to share with my 11-year-old daughter, I absorb the breeze—the relief—and I release the rest to Him. I remind myself that He has been there all along, waiting to carry those burdens far, far away, so that I can simply feel His presence, hear His promises, and exhale.

 

Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.

1 Peter 5:7

 

Little Better

February 14, 2012 by Lisa

As she buried her head in my chest, I felt her shakes and I knew they were real. The tears were falling from a child, but the cries were from a grown-up place that I often wish my 6 year old didn’t have to visit.

I knew she had been struggling lately, that something was up. But it wasn’t until a walker stood between her and a much-anticipated tea party that I saw her heart.

“Why does she have to use that, Moooom. Just take her out so we can get started.”

I knew right then and there that all of this “rock star” walker business was getting to her. My heart ached at the thought, and my tongue was tempted to quickly “fix” her hurt. But this wasn’t the time. The table was set, the Princess music was already on full blast, and Kendall was anxiously waiting to do her welcome dance. So we all sat at the table, poured “tea” into mini tin cups and shared Rice Chex and raisins as if everything was okay.

It wasn’t until a few days later that I saw my chance. Jeff had sent Emma to her room for disrespecting him, and I quickly suggested that I do the “sit down” with her this time. After we talked about her behavior, I only had to mention Brooklyn’s walker before she broke down.

“Why does she have to have a walker? Why can’t she just walk like you and me.”

We had one of these kinds of conversations soon after Brooklyn started physical therapy, but that was before there were standers and walkers and lots of people acting like these were all good things. To an innocent heart and a praying big sister, these weren’t good things at all.

So we talked. We talked about Faith, we talked about miracles, and we talked about Heaven. We talked about sister love and playgrounds and God’s plan and dancing. We hugged and we cried, and when it was all said and done, she answered one of my greatest prayers in just seven simple words.

“Mom, you always make me feel better.”

Today, instead of playing Barbies with Kendall, she sat on the floor and played with Brooklyn until her bus came. When I told her it was time to get her coat on, she kissed Brooklyn on the head and promised her they would play some more as soon as she got home from school.

As Emma closed the door behind her, Brooklyn called out for her — “Me-maw!” — and started to inchworm crawl her way over to the door. Emma caught it all out of the corner of her eye and ran back, sneaking in one more kiss on her baby sister’s head before skipping up the driveway and heading off to 1st grade.


~Linking up with Just Write.~

Rock Star

February 3, 2012 by Lisa

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They said there was no way to know her abilities. What she will or won’t be able to do.

Every case is different. Every child is different.

Wait and see. Wait and see.

Well, we have waited, and now we are seeing. Seeing miracles. Perhaps through a different lens than the rest of the world, but we are seeing miracles.

From the first day she kicked those legs, to the first day she sat up, to first day she scooted across that floor, to the first day she stood tall and proud.

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And now we are here. Walking. A place that looks different than I ever would have imagined, but a place that is more beautiful than I ever could have dreamed.

Of course, there will be more milestones. More independence. More work. But I have no doubt she will amaze me every single time.

Just weeks ago, they said that she was “too young” to start using a walker.

“Mrs. Bonnema, these kids with Spina Bifida aren’t typically ready until 24 months, sometimes 3 years old.”

Well, my dear surgeon, perhaps you have forgotten what you told me 2 years ago. Words I have hung onto every day of her existence.

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Every case is different. Every child is different. 

She is different

and motivated

and stronger than you or I will ever be.

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And perhaps, my dear surgeon, you haven’t met my God. Because He? Well, He can do anything. Through you, through me, and most certainly through these kids with Spina Bifida.

They are rock stars. Every one of them. Not because of their challenges, but because of how they overcome those challenges.

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Our rock star has decided to skip the part where you fit her for a more mobile form of bracing. We will get fitted for that next week, but until then, she has decided that she’s not waiting for anyone to tell her what she is able to do. All she needed was some wheels, and thankfully God provided us with a therapist who ignored her age and her diagnosis — and only saw her abilities.

Apparently “wait and see” isn’t on Brooklyn’s agenda.

Yeah, total rock star.

Linking up with Small Style…
T-shirt: Okie Dokie (gifted)
Leg warmers: hand-made (gifted)
skirt: Baby Gap, niece hand-me-down
hair bow: Adornmegirl
shoes: Pedoodles, Kendall hand-me-downs

Spark

December 2, 2011 by Lisa

Last week, when we were at clinic, I saw an adorable little girl in leg and hip braces, pushing a walker, and I couldn’t help but smile. Her mom followed as she confidently led the way, knowing exactly where she wanted to go and almost taking a few toes out along the way. This girl had a destination!

First, it was full speed ahead to the table with the over-sized checkers board, where she took a seat with her mom. But she immediately switched gears when she spotted a waving baby. I watched as she got back into her walker and eagerly rolled over to the baby. She then flipped down her seat (that was part of the walker) and thought nothing of striking up a conversation with the baby and his family. And there she sat chatting for the next 15 minutes, beaming as much light as when she first walked in.

Clinic days are interesting. They reveal the crazy spectrum that is Spina Bifida, ranging from kids with no signs of physical challenges that are there for a quick urology check up, to incapacitated kids with feeding tubes and reclined wheelchairs. Most of the time, I leave thankful for Brooklyn’s health and praying for the little ones with much bigger struggles.

When they called us in for Brooklyn’s ortho appointment, I couldn’t get the image of the little girl out of my mind. It was an image I have seen many times in my head, and I couldn’t help but ask the question I knew better than to ask:

“I know you’re only guessing, but based on what you see so far, what do you think Brooklyn will be able to do?”

Our orthopedic surgeon smiled and gently told me that it depends on the muscle strength we see in the coming months. But as I pressed her, she added that because Brooklyn is already able to sit up independently, she should be able to walk with assistance. We just aren’t sure what that “assistance” will mean. There will definitely be braces of some kind and a walker involved at some point, either as a bridge to crutches or as her main mode of transportation. And, of course, there is always the possibility that she will need a wheelchair, even if it is just for long distances.

Her answers didn’t surprise me. In fact, I pretty much knew what she was going to say, but something made me ask. I admit that for the last 6 months, I have basically predetermined what I think Brooklyn will do. It’s not like I’ve completely lost hope — trust me, I still pray BIG — but I kind of felt like I just knew. A Mama’s heart can feel that stuff.

Later that day, Brooklyn had physical therapy. Nothing special, just our typical weekly therapy. But during stretching, I watched our PT’s face light up.

“I think I just felt something new twinge.”

My heart stopped.

“I think I might have fired a hamstring.”

Now I was choking back tears. You think I’d be used to this by now. Even now, as I write, the tears are falling.

It wasn’t until that moment that I realized perhaps I had lost a little bit of hope. It’s a difficult balance — hoping and accepting. We had heard early on that maybe Brooklyn had some hamstrings, but further unofficial “tests” didn’t confirm that, so I figured we were all quads. And although I want every muscle we can get, quads are all we need to walk. So I was good with that.

But to think there was still a chance for more? To think for a second that my image was wrong. Well, that was a m a z i n g.

Like anything in life, I’m not sure there is a “right” way to navigate through this journey, but I do think that a spark of hope every now and then is good for the soul, even if it turns out to be wrong.

This week, Brooklyn has started to experiment going on all fours, bending knees that never really existed when she was born. We are bumping her PT appointments up to twice a week, and I can’t tell you how excited I am to see what she can do.

We also have a muscle test coming up in January — her first one since the day she was born. I am both excited and scared to see what we find.  I am fully aware the results may prove our PT wrong — and my heart is ready for that (I think) — but my hope, my prayers will still be that Brooklyn proves all of us wrong.

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Happy weekend, everyone!

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I am a great many things: a "mom in progress" to three beautiful girls; a wife to my favorite person; a daughter of Christ; a writer; a lover of good coffee; a recovering perfectionist; and a hopeful romantic learning to find peace and joy in God alone. This is my story and His story.

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