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Basking

July 13, 2010 by Lisa

This summer is flying by, but we are trying our hardest to savor every minute. Trying to balance the “to do” lists and errands with the fun and memorable. Trying to let go of the schedule a little and enjoy the sunshine for as long as it lasts.

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Lately, I am finding joy in the every day, especially as I look at these two little girls grow more and more in love with each other. They are truly best friends, and their relationship is something they created on their own. Somehow, their relationship makes me more complete, and it makes every hard day worth it.

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The three of us — “the girls” as Jeff calls us — we are a package deal. And I love that. They drive me crazy, yes, but they also amaze me and inspire me and love me for all that I am (and all I am not).

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When I look at them — at us — I am happy. Often frustrated, always exhausted, and sometimes overwhelmed…but happy. And to think we get to add another girl to our “package” makes me happier. I know it makes them happier too.

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(*P.S.: “Power – Part 2” later this week…)

Power

July 9, 2010 by Lisa

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Let me be honest for a minute. If you would have asked me a year ago about the “power of prayer,” you would have gotten some luke-warm response from me. Yes, I KNOW it’s important. I know God tells us to do it. And of course I have done it many, many, many times for those I love and those I barely know because, well, that’s what you do when something bad happens. You pray for someone. (Or you at least offer to pray.)

For me, prayer had always been one of those “I need to do more” things, and like most people, it was often a clear reflection my relationship with God. It definitely needed some help. I meant to pray more — to actually follow through on my promises to people — but sometimes I just plain forgot, got too busy…or fell asleep.

And even when I did pray, did I truly believe my prayers were making a difference? I mean God is God, and He is going to do what He is going to do. Was I just getting another jewel in my crown because I remembered to do it, or was I actually having some sort of impact on the lives I was praying for? I honestly don’t know what I thought. In fact, I never really thought that much about it all.

Now, however, I will boldly tell you that there is absolute power in prayer. I know it because I have felt it pulse through my heart. I have felt it zap away tears and energize a broken spirit. I have seen it literally move legs and ignite hope like never before. Trust me, there is power in prayer.

Ever since we found out about Brooklyn’s condition, I have been amazed at the amount of prayer and support we’ve received. I’ll never forget an email Jeff got from a woman we didn’t even know after I sent out our first prayer request email. Not only did this complete stranger offer us love and encouragement (and prayer), a simple scroll down showed that she had received our email after 3 forwards. Jeff and I were in total awe.

The cards, the letters, the emails, the blog and FB comments…each one has meant more than you know. And when you say you are praying for our baby, I believe you and I am truly and eternally grateful. Prayer is literally all we can offer our baby right now, so we have no problem asking for it. Pride has no place in your life when your child’s health is concerned. We will do whatever it takes for her.

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Soooooo…this is all leading up to two absolutely amazing prayer experiences I had in the last 2 weeks. Today I’ll tell you about the first one.

Two Sundays ago, my sister-in-law and mother-in-law threw me a prayer shower. The invite list only included close family and a few church friends. I honestly had no idea what a “prayer shower” was and although I was so very thankful for the gesture, I was a little nervous about being the center of attention. I mean it’s one thing when people are coming to rub your belly and say congrats, but it’s completely different when people are coming to rub your belly with tears in their eyes and have no idea what to say. But it wasn’t like that at all. It was A M A Z I N G.

After a beautiful lunch, my sister-in-law asked everyone to sit in a circle of chairs. She had everyone bring words of encouragement (bible verses, sayings, prayers, etc.) they prepared on a card that she put in a keepsake book. She invited people to read their card, to pray out loud if they felt led, or to just share their heart. There was no pressure and we didn’t go around the circle. People just prayed and shared if they felt comfortable, and I have never been so touched in my entire life. There were tears, yes, but not because we were sad. It was just emotional and touching and
P O W E R F U L.

There is no doubt that God was in that room with us, and I felt absolutely blessed that I got to be the Mommy of such a little angel. A precious life that had managed to bring all of these people together to talk to God before she was even born. Bring all of us closer to Him…and to each other. One little life, so many prayers. SO MUCH POWER.

After we were finished, I stood in the center of the room, and everyone laid hands on my belly or just stood around me. My sister-in-law asked everyone to pray one very specific silent prayer in their hearts for Brooklyn, for me, or for our family. It didn’t take long before those prayers were no longer silent and we were once again praising and asking and trusting. My heart was lifted, my love tank “filled,” and my doubts and fears eased. Total and complete peace washed over me. Again and again and again.

Did I deserve all of this? No. But I will take it. All of it. For my baby and for His glory.

This was no ordinary shower. There was no registry, no pictures, no Baby Bingo, no pink safety pins to steal from your neighbor. There was no huge guest list (although we had enough dessert to feed hundreds!) and no obligatory “I have to go.” I truly believe that those who were meant to be there were there, and God used them in a very powerful way. Everyone should have one of these. Seriously.

There were a few small thoughtful gifts, but most were opened after I got home. Nothing about this shower was superficial or worldly. This was about all about God.

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I will forever treasure this experience, the keepsake book that will surely get me through the toughest of days, and every word that was spoken for my daughter, my family, and for me. And for those words that were unspoken, I will trust those to God. I know He will use them in an amazing way.

There is power in prayer. Not only because of how absolutely empowered I was after this experience, but because what happened in the days following. And it wasn’t what you think.

Not that I’m trying to keep you hanging, but I realize that this post is getting long enough, and I have even more to say about experience #2. I will tell you that Brooklyn’s condition appears to be the same, but I will also tell you that there a lot more hope around here lately. Keep praying.

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Brooklyn Update: On the Move

June 23, 2010 by Lisa

Today’s non-stress test and ultrasound were mostly low-key with no dramatics.

(That is, if you don’t count my hormonal breakdown in the middle of the OB office when I realized I got my appointment time wrong and they wanted me to reschedule. Needless to say, my tears and a whole lot of begging still got me in before noon. We even made a new 3.75-hour appointment time record!)

So besides that, Miss Brooklyn cooperated, and we passed our non-stress test. Our ultrasound, however, showed that she is indeed a busy bee and is back to a breech position. Yes, she managed to do a complete 180 in the last 3 weeks, so we may be back to that C-section after all. Only time will tell if our wiggle worm will go back “into position” or if she’s ready to stay put.

The good news is that she is clearly moving around just fine in there. Plus, my mind has now been “prepped” for either type of delivery, so it’s in God’s hands. He knows which is the safest delivery route for her, and I am happy to do either. At this point, I just want her to be born so I can hold her! (Although a prayer or two for her to wiggle back would be nice… 🙂

Her ventricles were measuring a little larger (which helps determine the amount of excess fluid in her brain), but the increases were small and were in line with normal growth. Both ventricles are at about 21 mm. So while we have surpassed the dreaded 20-mm mark — which some say is cause for concern — we are trusting that God will protect Brooklyn’s brain. However, please keep praying for the fluid to decrease. How awesome would it be to see that miracle happen?!

She is still a little peanut (about a week behind “schedule”) but is up to 4 lbs and 7 oz. She is facing away from my belly, which means her spine is literally pressed up against my belly button for the whole world to bump into. I swear this child wants to give me more gray hair. But then again, she fits right in with her big sisters. We make them spunky around here!

My next OB appointment is next week, but I have no idea when I will have another ultrasound. I did manage to get a quick profile shot out of the technician this time, but I didn’t want to push it since I was already on borrowed time.

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(In case you can’t make it out, the photo shows her looking up — you can see her nose, lips, chin and little bit of her chest. That may be her arm over her head…not sure.)

So that’s the latest. Keep praying, please! Only 5 more weeks to go!

Drama Queen

June 18, 2010 by Lisa

Did you know that an OB appointment can last 7 hours? No really. You didn’t? Well, it can.

Did you know you could turn that harmless appointment into a fun-filled trip to labor and delivery, complete with a call to your hubby to get his butt downtown a.s.a.p.? You know, just for kicks…

And did you know you can then top it all off by driving home in 2 hours of Chicago traffic during rush hour when there is a complete downpour?

Oh, yes, yes, you can.

That, my friends, was my Tuesday.

And, yes, I would REALLY like some WINE with that whine. Please, please have a glass for me. Or two. 😉

Now, first of all, let me say that everything is totally fine and that the drama here is totally intended. (But, of course, we all know there is at least a smiggin’ of truth in sarcasm.)

Anywho…

Needless to say, Tuesday’s appointment wasn’t as “uneventful” as we had hoped. Well, in the end it was (a blessing, I know!), but not without some drama.

I really, really hate drama. I try to avoid it at all costs, but I’m afraid I’m turning into a drama queen. Seriously. I’ve never even broken a bone, but now? Well, I feel like it’s always something.

And it’s not like a “poor, poor me” kinda thing — honestly. It’s more like a “this is getting embarrassing because I need you to now watch my kids for 7 hours because I can’t seem to sit on a fetal monitor without something fluke-ish happening” kinda thing. I mean really?

So here’s what happened: I went for a typical OB appointment (no ultrasound), which started with a stress (NST) test. I got downtown in record time, so I was feeling really good that we were going to break our current 5-hour minimum: NST, pee, weight, belly measure, and see ya next week!

Notsomuch.

I was hooked up to the NST machine, chatting away with my nurse while Miss Brooklyn was happily displaying her latest moves via line graph, when BEEP, BEEEEP, BEEEEEEP!!!!

Nurse runs out; another runs in. Doctor comes in. “Turn on your right side. Turn on your left.”

Chaos, chaos, chaos.

“Turn back over and let’s get that heartbeat again.”

No more BEEEEEEPS! Just beep, beep.

Calm.

Me: “What just happened?”

New female OB I had just met who looked like she was straight out of Grey’s Anatomy: “Your baby’s a bit of a trouble maker. Her heart rate dropped significantly for a while there, but she looks fine now. We just want to monitor you over at labor and delivery for a few hours. We’ll do your OB exam over there.”

Me: “Uh, okay.”

So I call Jeff and waddle across the street to triage, call my absolutely angelic sister-in-law babysitter, get hooked up again, and snooze until my now-stressed hubby arrives. Oh joy.

Brooklyn is fine, but yes, she is a trouble maker. It appears that she decided to grab hold of the umbilical cord and give it a good squeeze, which made her heart rate plummet just enough to freak us all out.

But all is well now.

She is moving plenty, and I feel fine. And this grabbing thing? Well, it doesn’t surprise me. I swear this girl has a hold on my bladder and squeezes it any time she feels the need for a good laugh…and lately, that is quite often. 🙂

I too can laugh about it all now, but I’ll admit it wore on me a little Tuesday night after I finally got the girls to bed and I was waiting for Jeff to get home from his second trip into work…ya know, at 9pm.

But we all need a good cry now and then, right? And thank goodness I decided to give in and buy that heavenly bag of chocolate the night before when I went grocery shopping. Now THAT was a God-send for sure.

So there’s some more drama for ya’ll. I have an ultrasound next week, so we’ll see what happens. At least I get to see Miss Queenie herself and those grabby hands! Seriously, could I write a better script?

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I am a great many things: a "mom in progress" to three beautiful girls; a wife to my favorite person; a daughter of Christ; a writer; a lover of good coffee; a recovering perfectionist; and a hopeful romantic learning to find peace and joy in God alone. This is my story and His story.

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